Did you read The Secret? Well, here is The REAL Secret.


I did read The Secret by Rhonda Byrne but being a person who believes you bring into being a lot of the good things in your life through what you do, not just by what you want,  it actually seemed a bit daft to me.

I fully belive in positive thinking, focusing your energy and your mind on what you want and having faith. But if that’s all it took I know people I love who have died would still be here and I know for a certainty  my hubby would have loads of money and not be working! 

Like the authors of The Real Secret  I don’t feel its helpful to tell peple simply by wanting and believing they can and will have what they want. It’s just not true for a start amd it’s hardly blooming pro-active!

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So when I was asked to review The Real Secret I thought ‘Oh here we go again.’ . This is  a VERY sensible, practical book. Refreshingly so and yes actually it probably does contain some of the real secrets to having the best life you can. It isn’t rocket science, its about good habits, breathing well, eating moderately, positivity and practicality but there are reasons why strands of such  advice have been around forever. These ideas work.

I love that the emphasis throughout the book is not on the universe but on you as the only possible agent of change, the only thing in your control. The very first chapter dealt with how to be happy and it sounded so simple I’ve been giving it a go.        

The authors firmly believe by being happy you are more likely to be successful and satisfied in your life rather than the other way around. But how do you get to happy in the first place? Well they tell us its all about habits… we are, after all, what we repeatedly do, so we need to develop good habits.

Here are their suggestions:

  • Keep smiling
  • Make a date for fun
  • Three good things (written down each day)
  • Spread a little happinesss

 Easy right?

Well I have committed myself to doing all 3 for the last week and you know what, so far I am genuinely more upbeat and jolly and yep…happy! So far so good and so simple!

Other chapters deal with friends, money, relationships, fitness, weight etc. all tough aspects of our life. Each chapter is easy to read and suggests habits that it would be very helpful to form and simple ways to do it. Such an easy book to read and utterly do-able. I LOVE this book and I will reread it many times.  I really think it can make a difference.

The authors are a work life balance expert and coach and a socal psychologist. They are clearly well read but above all they are clear communicators able to take profound psycholoigical motivations and create simple steps to achieve drastic change.  So clever.


I do have a copy of this excellent book to give away. Please tell me….. something you do to get to happy ….to be in with a chance of winning.

(T&C  1 entry per person. Winner picked at random on 14th Jan 2011 by myself. Authors are responsible for sending you the book.)


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  1. January 6, 2011 / 10:12 am

    I totally agree with this….I read the secret on holiday in 2007 and i practiced it religiously. I wrote a story about finding my perfect partner – filled a notebook of his qualities. When i got back i put up an ad on gumtree – had 20 replies and one stood out. We emailed for a week and he wanted to meet up. We arranged to meet on the sat but by chance i met a friend for coffee on the friday and he was at the same cafe eating his lunch! we met on the sat and he asked me to marry him 4 days later!
    He fits the description perfectly – we got married a year to the date that he saw me in the cafe.
    We have been married 2 and half years now.
    I love the secret! xx

  2. christine taylor
    January 6, 2011 / 12:49 pm

    I watch my son sleep,this makes me happy and proud x

  3. January 6, 2011 / 12:50 pm

    I think back to a time in my life when something really lovely has happened, and relive it in my mind… I have a few stored up, so that I can ‘go back to that place’ if I need to. Never fails to make me 🙂

  4. Rhoda Kellar
    January 6, 2011 / 1:49 pm

    I have a bath and clear my mind! Always end up feeling happy and chilled, never fails. Even better if I have a good book to read in the bath. 🙂

  5. Mangla Sachdev
    January 6, 2011 / 2:23 pm

    I have a 6 year old son and a 3 year old daughter and when I feel low I go to them and ask random questions, like what does thunder sound like? One reply was, God’s moving his furniture!

    Their weird and wacky answers always puts a smile on my face and gives me great insight into how they think and what goes on in their head. With that awe, I can’t help but feel happy that I have two beautiful children.

  6. January 7, 2011 / 8:33 am

    To get happy I do something with my family, crafty things are always good as we all enjoy it and watching the children do anything they enjoy makes me smile!

  7. January 8, 2011 / 10:23 am

    I love the secret and have read it a few times, but have always struggled with the whole practise of it. This book sounds brilliant in showing you how to do it.

    What do I do to make myself happy, I often just sit and watch Baba just watching his imagination and listening to how his brain is working always makes me smile. It always makes me happy, whatever mood I was in before hand. xx

  8. January 8, 2011 / 12:35 pm

    I’ve read The Secret and although it forgets to say that those cheques are not going to come through the door without some work e.g. the guy that had already written a book, the guy who had the picture board but already had a good job to be able to buy that house (although I’m still impressed by the woman who corrected her eyesight) – it has made a positive impact on my life just thinking about the things I’m grateful for as it’s easy to forget what we have.

    At the moment I regularly think about the moment my nephew first said my name (and perfectly!). I was such a proud auntie! And although he’s said it so many times since, I’ll always think of that moment and smile.

    I’d love to give The Real Secret a read – sounds a lot more practical 🙂

  9. January 10, 2011 / 1:07 pm

    A good walk makes me feel happy – I feel they key to happiness is plenty of fresh air! I would follow this with coffee and a cake.

  10. January 12, 2011 / 3:34 pm

    I am a big believer in the law of attraction and am convinced it brings a happier life ! Makes me happy speaking to people and having a good gossip and catch up with friends. Little things in life make me happy like a great song or walking by the sea in winter….

  11. Maria Mesias
    January 13, 2011 / 10:02 am

    happiness for me is putting on Bon Jovi full blast and dancing around the kitchen. Yes really!! And it works for me!!!

  12. January 14, 2011 / 11:27 am

    I like ‘The Secret’ as it is empowering when you feel down. But it totally misses an important aspect of the Law of Attraction, plus people often forget to look at the bit about the power of gratitude.
    Everything has a downside, and people forget that when trying to attract something without really thinking it through. Plus, although focus is worthwhile, for you to get it, and for it to work out, it really needs to be a ‘heart felt’ focus. Otherwise people will get what they wanted and then find it doesn’t fulfil them or spend ages wanting something else and not appreciating what they have.

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